Learning from Feedback and Rejection

Many of you would have gone through the Feedback review, Mid Year Review or Routine Feedback meetings in your career. You would have seen yourselves struggling to make peace with the feedback received and it would seem difficult at times to accept and move forward in your professional life.

Nevertheless we have to come in terms with the feedback and keep moving forward. 
This is one of the most important untaught skills available to each of us.
  • Three times in a row, a salesperson is rejected by one prospect after another.
  • Your manager doesn’t approve your ideas.
  • A customer complains to a company that its website is not working with the browser.
  • You are denied a promotion and an increment.
How do we deal with the people who enjoy creating uncertainty? How do we differentiate between constructive, useful insight and the other kind? How do we decide which feedback is actually a clue about ourselves, and which is a distraction?

If you listen to none of the feedback, you will learn nothing. If you listen to all of it, nothing will happen. When someone doesn't say yes, they'll often give you a reason or feedback for the rejection.

We all fall in the trap of believing the reason or feedback. 

But we can definitely ask the questions to ourselves and get better at the art of listening and dismissing.
You just need to ask these two questions and align yourself accordingly. 
  • The First one, "I actively seek this kind of feedback.” Listen to it and act on it.
  • And the Second one, "I'm not interested in hearing that." Dismiss it.
Apparently if you can think of third question please mention it in the comments below.

If you start rebuilding yourselves, your work, your pitch based on the stated reason, you're driving by looking in the rear view mirror. The people who turn you down have a reason, but they're almost certainly not telling you why.
  • There can be fake reasons like I don't like the color, it's too expensive, you don't have enough references, there was a typo in your resume.
  • But the real reasons would be like My boss won't let me, I don't trust you, I'm afraid of change. This are really very hard to know.
But by all means, make your stuff better. More important, focus on the unstated reasons that drive most rejections.

Shun the non-believers and work with people who want to go on a journey with you. Remember no one understands your self-narrative, no one cares that much about you, no one truly gets what it's like to be you.
That piece of truth you're seeking isn't out there, no matter how hard you look in the mirror. This truth can be found by looking within and getting more true to one's own self. 


Source: Seth Godin Blog

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